Last weekend, a new-to-me contact popped up on IM, asking if I’d enjoy ruining his orgasm. Of course, there is only one response to that in my vocabulary, and that is “YES”. We then had a lovely session together, that included me watching him on cam as he followed my instructions.
The erotic cam show certainly added to the thrill of the phone sex for me. It was indescribably delicious to see the line of tension in his long, lean body as it strained for something that it just wasn’t going to receive. Hearing the agonizing breaths ripped from him was a great deal of fun as well, and I look forward to our next session of torment.
What is a Ruined Orgasm?
Essentially, a ruined orgasm is just another form of cock control. Some release is allowed, but the practice keeps the stroker from being swept away in the full, rich bliss that we typically think of an orgasm being. Stimulation is provided, but instead of stopping at the edge, the stroker is pushed one step past that, to the point of no return.
At that instant, stimulation is stopped, and a variety of methods can be used to reduce, if not totally eliminate the pleasure normally associated with cumming. The methods can be something simple like thumbing, or, if the dominant has taken up residence within the stroker’s head space, emotional and psychological buttons can be pushed as well.
It’s All About Pleasure
If you find yourself asking why anyone would want to inflict this upon themselves, the answer is simple…it’s all about pleasure. As with other forms of control and denial play, ruined orgasms can cause the stroker to walk through the world in a heightened state of arousal and need.
If At First You Don’t Succeed, Try, Try Again
Ruined orgasms are an art form, and it can take practice to perfect them. You can work on them alone, so that when you are in session with your favorite masturbatrix, she can add her skills to your own, and it will result in a bout of mind blowing, tantalizing erotic fun.
What’s Your Take on Ruined Orgasms?
Have you dabbled in them in the past? If so, what have been your experiences? Does the notion intrigue you, or does it make you clutch your parts in horror?
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My take on a ruined orgasm Ms Claire? Well I think you already know the answer to that and I was green with envy reading your post! What a lucky Mistress you were that day to enjoy a lovely epic ruin with a caller. I cherish those calls! And yes, there is an “art” to perfecting the perfect ruined orgasm. *Thinking* wouldn’t it be fun to ruin one together some time in the near future! Hugs Ms Alex
Oh, I do *indeed* know your take on a ruined orgasm, Ms Alex! As a frequent reader of your ruined orgasm blog, I know that you have elevated mastered…or mistressed…the fine art of frustrating men beyond belief.
I would LOVE to do a ruination call with you! Perhaps some brave soul will step forward and volunteer. ~wicked grin~
id let you give me my first one ….hows it work?
It starts with the sound of my voice, a hard cock, and the ability to follow instructions to the letter. ~winks~
Mistress Claire,
There is something I don’t understand about this. How can a man’s orgasm be “ruined” if it is experienced in the way his Masturbatrix requires? Doesn’t that make it a “perfect” orgasm from her viewpoint? And from the man’s viewpoint also, since he would be doing what pleases Mistress.
For want of a better word, a “ruined” orgasm would be a wonderful way to surrender control and show obedience to a Masturbatrix. And her guidance is an essential part of the experience. It certainly sounds like a fine art that can only be properly accomplished under the guidance of a skilled Mistress.
You Mistresses are so kind to us.
With reverence,
Steve
I think those are some beautifully expressed sentiments, Steve. As long as one is serving, and doing that what is asked of them, then that can be more pleasurable than any type of orgasm, “ruined” or not.
I think I’ve come up with a suitable (for me) alternative for the term “ruined orgasm”. Instead of Mistress saying “I’m going to ruin your orgasm,” perhaps she might say, “Mistress has decided to permit you a slow ejaculation in her honour.”
The same thing happens, but (to me) it better expresses the feeling of submitting obediently to Mistress … being granted a special privilege, rather than having something taken away.
The deciding factor is … would Mistress approve?
I think it’s dependent upon situation, Steve. In some instances, it is indeed taking something away. In others, it is granting a privilege.
In short, it’s whatever Mistress says it is.